Speak Only What You Mean and You'll be Respected
Have you ever noticed that some people keep on succeeding while others have great ideas but nothing happens with them in the end? Do you know people who SAY they will do something but never do it? Do YOU do this?
If you do this, do you know what it reveals about you? It tells people that you are not trustworthy and cannot be counted on. You are unlikely to succeed at the activities that you SAY you want, because you tend to focus only on urgent things, but not on other important things. This may be harsh, but if it describes one of your habits, at least now you know the consequences in all aspects of your life. Putting off doing something can be easy – everyone is busy – and then you just do the things that are SHOUTING at you…
Say-Do Principle: But if you want to have long term credibility with others, apply the Say-Do Principle. Only say you will do something if and WHEN you ARE going to do it. Hold your breath and count to 10 before spouting impulse-driven sentences that others will take as a commitment on your part. Make this a rule that you follow. If you have to miss a deadline, communicate a new deadline as soon as possible. This will earn you much respect and trust from everyone you care about.
Detail/Big Picture: One of the most important gifts you can give yourself if you want to be successful is to identify where to place your attention. Often people get lost in the detail when trying to make a decision and lose sight of the larger stakes.
Options/Procedures: When people are focused on options, alternatives, and possibilities, they struggles completing commitments. These folks tend to be very creative, but often do not follow through on what they say they will do. If someone has a preference for a step by step process when they do things, that person is more likely to follow through with commitments. When you hear language such as “the next step, then, after that, process, how to get to the end goal”, it will highly likely indicate that the person IS committed to doing what they said they would do. To improve your ability to follow through and really DO what you committed to doing get yourself into a more procedural mode. An easy way to do this is to schedule in your calendar WHEN you will do the steps needed to fulfill your commitment. And be a slave to your calendar. Use your calendar to guide your actual work activities, and not only your appointments with others.
Delegate: If you still suck at doing what you said you would do; hire someone and give them the task. Obviously, if your commitment was about making time for looooove with your partner, delegating this task may lead to some undesired consequences. lol
The Power of Commitment
When you only SAY the things you will DO, suddenly you have a super power! Others trust you and treat you with respect. But you get the things you want from life because you made the commitment to do and DID what is needed when you said you would. A simple commitment: Say-Do, and achieve what you want every time!
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